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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2011 : 3:16 p.m.

How big a helping of self care do you take?

By Chris Wucherer

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This week, I was touched by many of my clients who are working so hard to gather their energy back from trying to fix others. It's hard work. It takes courage to let go of thinking we know best what others need and shift inward to find out who we really are.

The truth is we can best help others when we are firmly centered within ourselves. When we understand our wants and needs and take really good care of ourselves we can bring a compassionate wisdom to our relationships.

It's easy to deceive ourselves into thinking we 'know another person better than they know themselves'. This erroneous thought drains the energy out of a person like air seeping out of a balloon.

As the cartoon illustrates self growth can be a lonely journey. In a way, it has to be a solo reflective quiet journey, for without stillness we can't hear ourselves.

When we stop sleep-walking through life and begin asking ourselves questions that will bring us into our true purpose, the world expands and fills up with loving supportive people.

Which section of the bookstore do you spend your time in, self help or fixing others?

Come home to yourself — it's the saner way to live.

How do you help yourself stay focused on your personal growth? Comment below — I would love to hear from you.

Chris Wucherer is a life coach, business coach and psychotherapist with 28 years of experience helping people create saner lives. She writes a blog and has a website. You can reach her at 734-669-7202 or by email.

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Comments

Sara

Mon, Aug 29, 2011 : 6:44 p.m.

I love this post. What a funny cartoon and oh, so true! I've found that self-growth doesn't have to be a lonely journey. I became trained to lead women's circles based on Renee Trudeau's book, The Mother's Guide to Self-Renewal, for that very reason. I've been leading these groups for over 2 years and am still in awe each month at the power of doing self-growth work w/other people. We inspire and encourage each other, and have a lot of fun in the meantime :)

BhavanaJagat

Fri, Aug 26, 2011 : 4:44 p.m.

Kindly find time to compare this post with the post titled "Peacemakers through history: Selfishness or Service which appears under the section "Our Values". Service could be described as a desire to fix others. Man must know himself and live in true relationship with himself before trying to find solutions to the problems of others. When man knows himself, he would describe himself as if he belongs to two categories; the first category is called 'The Self' which exists as a physical, mental, and social being, and the second category is called 'The Knowing-Self' which exists as a moral, and spiritual being. When man exists as a Moral and Spiritual being, he would be fully aware of the thoughts, emotions, feelings, and actions of his physical, mental, and social being. Man must learn to treat himself with respect, dignity, sympathy, love, and understanding. The spiritual nature of such social relationship, bonding, connection, partnership, and association between man and his physical being would lead to the growth of harmonious social relations with others in his living community.