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Posted on Sun, Sep 4, 2011 : 8:43 a.m.

Long path through life leads to career as hospice nurse

By Kyle Poplin

Mark Mooney went to a lot of effort and expense to get a new job that pays half as much as his old job. And he couldn’t be happier.

Mark, 49, says he was making good money as a software salesman, “but I hated my life.”

He decided he should do something -- had to do something -- more in line with his Buddhist beliefs. So, with his wife Christina’s blessing, he went back to school at the University of Michigan-Flint a few years ago and earned a bachelor’s degree in nursing.

Now he’s a full-time hospice nurse at St. Joseph Mercy Hospital. He loves his job so much that after a recent vacation he realized he couldn’t wait to get back to work and see his patients and coworkers.

“I can’t see doing anything else with my life,” he says, smiling. “This is what I live for, to know that I helped someone die with dignity and peace, and that I helped their family through it.”

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;Mark Mooney went from pastry chef to software salesman to hospice nurse.

Mark had a long-standing respect for nurses. He broke his neck and was temporarily paralyzed in a trampoline accident in his youth, and remembers admiring his care-givers and telling his mother, “I think I might like to do that some day.”

In 1998, Mark’s father used hospice when dying of complications related to Alzheimer’s. Again, Mark thought, “You know, I might want to do that.”

It took him a while to get there, though.

When he finished his high school career in Dearborn -- he calls it “Deadborn” -- he decided college wasn’t for him. Neither was full-time partying, as it turned out, so Mark ended up in Ann Arbor rooming with his brother, who attended U-M.

He landed a job as a cashier at a local bakery, and that led to a job as a baker. He was trained to be a pastry chef in the “classic European style” by Ian Titterton, an Englishman who at that time owned Ian’s Patisserie on Main Street. Mark also worked at Dayringer Bakery in town, owned by Charles Dayringer.

Through much of his decade and a half as a baker and pastry chef, Mark had taken college classes. He loved making pastries, and still does, but he needed more security. Twelve years after taking his first college class, he earned a geology degree from Eastern Michigan. The problem was, there were no available geology jobs in Michigan, so he settled for work in tech support and, eventually, software sales.

Had Mark not taken a trip to Asia in 1987 and ’88, he might be selling software to this day.

But during those seven months backpacking through India, Nepal, Tibet, Thailand, Malaysia and Singapore, Mark had a spiritual epiphany and became a Buddhist.

He doesn’t take his spirituality lightly. At the tender age of 12, he remembers telling his parents on one particular Sunday morning that he didn’t want to go to Catholic church anymore. Predictably, that didn’t go over well and he ended up at church anyway.

But some of his fundamental concerns remained unanswered. For instance, he’s long struggled with the Christian concept that you’ve got one chance, one life, to determine where you’ll spend eternity. He more readily identifies with the Buddhist concept of reincarnation and rebirth that he learned about in Asia.

Mark says Buddhism not only led to his choosing nursing as a career, it also makes him better in his hospice role of helping patients and families with end-of-life decisions.

“Buddhism teaches that you should meditate on death every day,” he said. “You want to make sure that when you go to your next life you’re carrying as much positive energy as possible.”

Mark wants to share and expand that energy. He’d love to buy a few acres on the outskirts of town and start a little organic farm, complete with goats and chickens, that could also serve as a sort of Buddhist educational retreat. “Kids should learn meditation to sharpen their mind,” he says. “One of the biggest problems in our society is people don’t know how to focus.”

Buying the land and starting a farm and retreat would be a huge undertaking, but don’t dismiss it as pie-in-the-sky musing. Mark likes to say, “I’ve never been afraid to try something new,” and he’s got the track record to prove it.

Kyle Poplin is publisher of The Ann magazine, which is inserted monthly in various print editions of AnnArbor.com. He’s also searching, through this column, for the most interesting person in Ann Arbor. If you have anyone in mind, email your idea to theannmag@gmail.com.

Comments

mary

Fri, Sep 9, 2011 : 3:52 p.m.

Hi - this article was linked in the NHPCO newsletter, and I just wanted to say what a pleasure it was to read your story! I too entered hospice nursing from a computer career (with a side trip as a nurse midwife for 10 years). I also make much less money and am far happier. My spiritual journey started as an Episcopalian but I tend to describe myself now as a Quaker Buddhist Witch (no disrespect intended for any faith tradition). And as a final synchronicity I dream of a little homestead with goats and chickens and bees! I have 4 chickens in my suburban backyard and plan to get the bees in the spring. My dream is a multi-generational care setting - babies, kids, families, adults and old folks living and learning together in nature. I can't tell you how many of our nurses and staff have chickens and other livestock! Must be a hospice thing... anyway, lovely to read your story which mirrors my own.

mmb

Wed, Sep 7, 2011 : 2:14 p.m.

Mark: Thank you so much for your response to my comments and the offer to discuss my concerns regarding my recent hospice experience. Further testimony to your concern and caring for others. I will plan to contact you within the next week. Thank you again and with kind regards.

mmb

Tue, Sep 6, 2011 : 1:15 p.m.

I too very much enjoyed this uplifting story. Sadly, I recently had a very negative and disappointing experience with St. Joe's Hospice. How I wish Mark had been a part of our team. Perhaps he can work to share his philosophies of care and compassion with his fellow hospice workers so other families do not have to feel as badly as I do. Thank you for sharing this terrific story and, Mark, please continue your wonderful work for hospice.

mark mooney

Tue, Sep 6, 2011 : 11:34 p.m.

MMB. Thank you for sharing your experience. I am so sorry that you had a bad experience with St. Joe's Hospice. I really respect my team members, but things don't always go the way I would hope they should. Would you be willing to tell me about what your experience was so we can work on improving? If so, please call me at 734-327-3200. This is the office number, but tell them you want to talk with me. If things are still too "raw" for you right now, I totally respect that and wish you peace and happiness in memories of your loved one.

nora

Mon, Sep 5, 2011 : 2:46 a.m.

How wonderful to see this article. Mark did an amazing things for our family when a loved one entered hospice in January. Seeing Marks lovely face on the computer screen was such a lovely reminder of how much comfort and clarity he brought to us in such a difficult time. Thank you for highlighting this extraordinary soul.

mark mooney

Tue, Sep 6, 2011 : 11:36 p.m.

Nora, Thank you for the kind words. It is people like you that keep me going in this job! M

Lonnie

Sun, Sep 4, 2011 : 3:12 p.m.

I really enjoyed reading about Mark's journey and very interesting life story. I wish Mark all the best in life and continued happiness. Thank you for your insight and your wonderful work for Hospice.

mark mooney

Mon, Sep 5, 2011 : 2:14 a.m.

Thank you, Lonnie! I read the story and think, that isn't all that interesting. I hope I inspire more than anything else. I wish you all the best as well.