You are viewing this article in the archives. For the latest breaking news and updates in Ann Arbor and the surrounding area, see
Posted on Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 2:57 p.m.

Searching for a sensitive man? Don't look in Ann Arbor, online dating service says

By Julie Baker

Ann Arbor may be the best city for singles, but only if you're into insensitive jerks, according to new rankings from online dating site

The site recently ranked Ann Arbor as the city where you're least likely to find a sensitive man.


A Michigan fan dances to the Rocky and Bullwinkle song played by the Michigan Marching Band during the football game against San Diego State at Michigan Stadium on Sept. 24.

Angela J. Cesere |

The online dating site reportedly used its own data based on personality profiles of American singles to rank the cities, with Pompano Beach, Fla.; Roanoke, Va.; and West Hollywood, Calif., topping the list.

Ann Arbor's association with the University of Michigan got it labeled as a big college sports town, which affected its ranking.

“Men do have a sensitive side. They want to please. But different men do it differently; and these 10 cities are packed with a certain kind of man, what I call BUILDERS — men who express a constellation of personality traits linked with the serotonin system in the brain,” said Dr. Helen Fisher,'s chief scientific adviser.

She described a sensitive man as one who "wants to do the right thing." Sensitive men also deeply value loyalty, duty, respectability and proper moral conduct.

Do you agree with this ranking?


Woman in Ypsilanti

Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 8:45 p.m.

And here all this time, I thought I was still single because I was too picky but obviously it is because of the slim pickings in this area *snort* ;)


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4:56 p.m.

Ann Arbor is the only city where I angered a woman by holding a door open for her.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4 p.m.

A couple of tips to enhance one's sensitivity: 'The American Gentlemen's Guide to Politeness'. "Every man is bound by the laws of courtesy, to note any street accident that imperils ladies, and at once to hasten to render such service as the occasion requires. Promptitude and self-possession may do good service to humanity and the fair, at such a juncture. Should you observe ladies whom you know, unattended by a gentleman, alighting from or entering a carriage, especially if there is no footman, and the driver maintains his seat, at once advance, hold the door open, and offer your hand, or protect a dress from the wheel, or the like, and bowing, pass on, all needed service rendered; or, if more familiarity and your own wish sanction it, accompany them where they may chance to be entering." "Upon passing servants, or other inferiors in station, whom you wish to recognize, in the street, it is a good practice, without bowing or touching the hat, to salute them in a kindly voice. When you meet a gentleman whom you know, walking with one or more ladies, with whom you are not acquainted, bow with grave respect to them also. Politeness requires that upon meeting ladies and gentlemen together, with both of whom one is acquainted, that one should lift the hat as he approaches them, and bowing first to the ladies, include the gentleman in a sweeping motion, or a succeeding bow, as the case permits..."


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 1:49 p.m.

Am I a MAN? Or am I a MUPPET?


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4:55 p.m.

Are we not men? We are DEVO. D-E-V-O.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4:01 p.m.

Only Ms Piggy will know for sure.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 1:44 p.m.

If he's too sensitive, he may not be a man.

A A Resident

Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 9:28 a.m.

Their conclusions are based on the personality profiles men fill out for a dating site???? Ha, what they've actually discovered is which cities have the biggest liars. LOL Sure, we all know what women want to hear.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 2:02 a.m.

Now THIS is spot on!!! The sports label is true because if you've ever been here on gameday, the level of obnoxiousness increases significantly (I have another, preferred term but I know if I post it, my comment will be gone).

Terry Star21

Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 1:45 a.m.

Most be a lot of single people in comment moderator department....


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 12:27 a.m.

Most women do not want men who value loyalty, duty, respectibility, and proper moral conduct. They are considered "boring". They love men with flaws they think they can change.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4:54 p.m.

Susie, please do not pity me. I just threw the statement out to see what the responses would be.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4:03 a.m.

I guess I'm not most women, then, genetracy, nor are my friends. Men with flaws may be what men think we want, but we actually are hoping for men who are loyal and honorable from the get-go. We know we don't have an ice cube's chance in hades to change those men who think their flaws are charming. I am truly sorry your experience with women has been contrary.

Terry Star21

Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 1:56 a.m.

Cool, I must be really loved...........

The Picker

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 11:05 p.m.

Nothing worse than wimpy women !


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 1:54 a.m.

Real men can be found in Alaska. Real women in North Dakota. Or so say the surveys.

The Picker

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 11:08 p.m.

Wait ! I take that back, wimpy men !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 10:52 p.m.

I think this applies pretty much across the board, gay or straight....the mumbo jumbo is pretty much spot on.


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 10:30 p.m.

Ouch . . . a pot hole . . . ouch . . . another pot hole . . . ouch . . . ad infinitum Fix the roads . . . And the smart, sensitive men will return . . . ; O

say it plain

Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 5:07 a.m.

Lol, because they're not the ones currently on the bikes or walking in this town either, so we can only hope ;-)


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:35 p.m.

The disproportionate number of frat boys and lawyers probably had something to do with this.


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:34 p.m.

This is so funny to read, and the photograph is worth a million words in itself!


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 4 p.m.

Explains why we are at the bottom for sensitive men.


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:25 p.m.

This is surprising, most of the people (including men) in Ann Arbor are usually OVERLY sensitive. At least we're still "smart"!

Josh Thiele

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:19 p.m.

Yeah right, stop crying and be quiet, you always get so emotional!! I'll show you sensitive....


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:11 p.m.

I'm with you Outside. My fragile and sensitive ego has been violated by these rash generalizations. I feel so "dirty".


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 1:53 a.m.

We will make..... COOKIES!!!!

John of Saline

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:19 p.m.

There, there. It'll be OK.


Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 9:10 p.m.

Go on any dating site and A2 is LOADED with single good looking women. it's great if you want to do the 'online' thing and never meet. I'm getting a mail order bride from Mexico.


Tue, Feb 28, 2012 : 5:15 p.m.

What's the return policy?

John of Saline

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 10:17 p.m.

Are there shipping costs associated with that?

Outside(:-o)looking in

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 8:44 p.m.

Ouch, that hurts. I may sulk for a few days.

Craig Lounsbury

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 8:15 p.m.

Ladies, if your man is less than sensitive, send him to my "The Badda Bing Badda Boom School of Sensitivity Training" . I'll knock some sensitivity in to the louts head in 3 visits or your money back.

rusty shackelford

Mon, Feb 27, 2012 : 8:09 p.m.

This is hilarious and spot on in spite of itself, from the site's pseudoscience to the all-too-apt accompanying photo.