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Posted on Thu, Dec 24, 2009 : 5:27 p.m.

Top 7 tips for helping a loved one grieving during the holidays

By Tina Reed

Grief over the passing of a loved one can continue long after the person has died, and the holidays can be especially difficult for those mourning their loss, according to Arbor Hospice in Ann Arbor.

The hospice is offering free grief support groups and also offered the following tips for helping those in the community who are struggling over the holidays with the death of a loved one:

1. Talk: It can help those who are grieving to talk about the person who died.

2. Expect changes: Don't expect the loved one to do everything the same way he or she traditionally did over the holiday.

3. Lighten the load: Offer to run errands like picking up groceries or holiday gift shopping, or offer to take the person's children shopping to help them cope.

4. Be understanding: Understand everyone grieves differently. Give them space and be understanding.

5. Invite, but don't push: Include the person in holiday plans but understand he or she might back out at the last minute.

6. Be there: Make a point to call, write or visit to let the person know others are thinking of him or her.

7. Listen: Offer an ear and listen. But avoid giving advice unless asked.

For more information about Arbor Hospice, visit www.arborhospice.org or call 1-888-992-2273.

Tina Reed covers health and the environment for AnnArbor.com. You can reach her at tinareed@annarbor.com, call her at 734-623-2535 or find her on Twitter @TreedinAA.

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Cendra Lynn

Thu, Dec 24, 2009 : 8:40 p.m.

You may also help by letting the bereaved know about GriefNet and KIDSAID. www.griefnet.org and kidsaid.com We run email support groups 24/7, 365 days, for adults and children who have lost a loved one.