Reviving a networking relationship
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One or the other (or both) of us forgets to maintain the contact, and, the next thing you know, two years have gone by and you feel a nagging twinge of guilt each time you see that person's name.
Ah, well, what are you going to do? It's too late to get back in touch with them, right?
Maybe. But then again, maybe not.
In reality, it's a lot easier to revive a neglected relationship than it is to start a brand new one. Putting forth just a little effort on your part now will mean all of your work in the past to develop the relationship will not have gone to waste.
Of course, if you had a valid reason for letting the relationship lapse (such as the other person turned out to be an axe-murderer), then just let sleeping dogs lie.
Assuming, though, that the relationship is worth saving, really all you have to do is call or email and say something to the effect of "Hey, Bob, I was just going through some old emails, and I came across your name. I apologize that I haven't called you in a while. What's been going on lately?" Remember, they haven't called you either, so by making the first move, you are letting them off the hook.
There's nothing like making someone else feel good by letting them know you've been thinking about them.
So, make some time in your daily networking activities to renew some old acquaintances. You'll never know when one of them will say. "Y'know, I'm so glad you called. I'm looking at a project right now that we could really use your help on."
Greg Peters, founder of The Reluctant Networker LLC, writes, speaks and coaches about good networking practice. For more tips that can help your connections count, go to www.thereluctantnetworker.com.
Comments
Greg Peters
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 11:16 p.m.
Good point, Lynne Maybe we should all make it a goal this year to reconnect with at least one old friend a month. I know I've got one or two on my list to contact. Have a great year!
Lynne Chaimowitz
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 : 10:48 p.m.
There is also something about reconnecting now in the New Year, it just seems appropriate time of year as everyone gets reorganized...
Greg Peters
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 : 11:43 a.m.
Thanks for the observation, Sarah. It's funny how good networking practice and good friendship behavior seem to mirror each other. It's almost as if it's the relationship that's the important thing, not whether it started as a personal or professional one.
Sarah Rigg
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 : 10:31 a.m.
This works for friendships, too. K have had some old friends that sort of drifted away, and the longer you let it go, the more guilty you can feel. In a couple of cases, I just got the gumption up to send an email or letter, apologized for "being a bad friend" and asked if we could stay in touch in the future. I have only gotten positive responses from that approach!