Pets: Is there a right way and wrong way for dogs to greet each other?
Julia Levitt | Contributor
Strolling down the street for your morning walk with your trusty canine friend — suddenly your dog spots another dog. You feel your arm being yanked and your pace is rapidly picking up.
Before you know it, your dog is either ferociously barking and lunging at the newcomer, jumping on the person walking the other dog or twisting you and the leash in circles, jumping- playing, or acting in an another inappropriate way toward the new dog.
What happen to my calm tranquil walk?
In her article "The art of learning to Be," dog trainer Cheri Lucas address this issue:
"Let your dog find his own way socially. Rather than insisting your dog meet face to face, try walking him along side another dog first, when both dogs have settled into a balanced mode they should be allowed to sniff each other. This is the canine version of 'breaking the ice.' This method is natural and non-confrontational."
What is a balanced mode?
"Being able to co-exist in a social setting with other dogs should be acceptable for them as it is for us," Lucas continues.
"The same thing is true of going to a party. Some people are the so-called 'life of the party' and mingle with everyone. Others stay close to the people they know. Some may meet some new people and still stay close to those they know well. The person who doesn’t mingle may be less 'social' as a partygoer, but it doesn’t make them any less 'social' as a human being. They still socialize with their friends. Think of your dog this way too. If he can just 'be' with other dogs, consider him a socialized dog, and don’t pressure him to play with others. If he wants to, he will. But if he is content to sit and have other dogs around without growling or barking, this is good behavior."
Learning to 'be' has us asking a few questions of ourselves:
When I greet a new dog, do I bend down look the dog in the face and begin talking baby talk?
When I see a new dog, and the dog displays excited behavior like jumping or whining, do I foster that behavior by petting the dog ?
Do I go up to the strange dog, stick my hand or closed fist in the dog’s face, and then immediately pet the dog?
Do I say when a strange dog sniffs me, "Oh the dog smells my -dog/cat?"
Do I wait before the owner says it is okay to pet the dog, or do I go right up to the dog and pet it?
A big part of the silent message we send when we greet other dogs is respect for them and the willingness on the human’s part to let a dog come greet us.
One of my friends, Ingrid, walks her two terriers past my excitable Pomeranians. Ingrid stands at a five- or six-foot distance from me while we chat. While we catch up on what is going on in our neighborhood, the dogs, who started out being excited — barking and growling at each other — became quiet and ignored each other. Cheri Lucas would see this as a success.