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Posted on Sun, May 12, 2013 : 5:58 a.m.

Three years after son's death, father returns to golf course they last played and finds closure

By Pete Cunningham

Three years ago, Bob Lemasters and his son Renden Lemasters played a round of golf at Ann Arbor Country Club. The front-nine was busy that day, so Bob and Renden played the back and finished their round on hole No. 9, a Par 3.

Bob stuck his tee-shot that day, parred the hole and won the friendly match. Renden left the course that night and stayed at a friend’s house. He was supposed to meet his father the next day. They had made plans to go to Mexican Village in Detroit for Easter weekend.


Bob Lemasters, right, and his son Renden Lemasters on New Year's Eve 2009.

Photo courtesy of Bob Lemasters

But instead of Renden ringing the doorbell the next morning, the phone rang at 6 a.m. It wasn’t Renden, but the Ann Arbor Fire Department. Renden had been pulled from a house fire on State Street in Ann Arbor and was fighting for his life at the University of Michigan Trauma Burn Center.

It was a fight Renden would lose. On April 3, 2010, he died with his family by his side. He was 22.

Bob Lemasters returned to Ann Arbor Country Club to retrieve his son's ball from the first hole. Their tradition was to play the first hole last and the second hole first because they lived halfway up the fairway and cut right through to home when they were done. With their match done, they hit their tee-shots and just left them. Bob found the ball on Easter Sunday, the day after Renden's death, and vowed never to play the course again.

Save for a memorial scramble a month after Renden’s death, it was a promise Bob kept.

Until last week.

Since the fire

Much has happened in the time between Bob’s rounds at the Ann Arbor Country Club, and for Bob, much of it has been sadness.

The Ann Arbor man had been a club member for 20 years and played countless rounds of golf there with Renden. But after his son's death, the memories were too painful, so he stayed away.


Deanna Lemasters, pictured above at a 2010 Ann Arbor City Council meeting, and her husband Bob became advocates to ban couches on porches after Renden's death. Officials said an upholstered sofa contributed to the severity of the fire.

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“There have been a lot of miserable days since, to be honest,” Bob said quietly, pausing as he choked up. “You just try and do the best you can for your other kids ”

Bob also has done much with other parents and their children in mind since Renden’s death, becoming an advocate for the Ann Arbor city ordinance that banned couches on porches, commonly referred to as “Renden’s Law." The blaze that caused Renden's fatal burns spread quickly to the whole house once an upholstered sofa on the porch caught fire.

Bob said even if it prevents just one parent from feeling the way he did, then those efforts were worth it.

“It’s just the wrong order of life to have a child go before you,” Bob said. “He wasn’t an angel - he was like all college kids, but he was definitely in a good place - and it just doesn’t make sense to you as a parent.”

Returning to the course

Bob and his wife Deanna tried to get out for a round of golf at Stonebridge on Thursday, May 2, but had no luck finding an opening. They called around to three courses before Bob finally said he wanted to go to Ann Arbor Country Club.

“I said ‘are you sure, I thought you said you never wanted to go back there?’” recalled Deanna, Renden's stepmother. “He said, ‘I think it’s ok, let’s try there.’ ”

“I was a little apprehensive about going out to the course, but I said it’s been three years,” Bob recalls.

It was time.

Despite the fact that the four other courses they had called were all completely booked - Deanna and Bob were able to enjoy their round with practically no interruption.

“There was nobody out there, didn’t see anybody else for seven holes, we basically had the course to ourselves,” Deanna said. “It was totally wide open.”

“The whole day was just kind of surreal. We couldn’t get on any of the courses and then there’s nobody (at Ann Arbor Country Club),” Bob said. “I think it was just the fate that we were just meant to go back to that course that day.”

While Bob and Renden were good for 18 holes when they would play, Deanna describes herself as “more of a nine-hole kind of golfer,” so Bob and Deanna would end on the last hole father and son had played together.

Deanna feared the round might be too much for her husband. Renden would have turned 26 on Thursday, May 9, and the three-year anniversary of his death had just passed. But as the two approached No. 9, Bob and Deanna talked about it being Renden’s final hole and everything seemed just fine.

Bob teed up his ball and swung away.

“Renden - he was such a fun loving kid, I know he has probably looked down at me several times over the past three years and said ‘Dad, stop being sad and live life,’ ” Bob said. “But it’s been hard to do.

“Some tough times over the past few years. A parent’s worst nightmare.”


Bob Lemasters holds his hole-in-one ball and a picture of his son Renden, which he keeps with him always.

Photo courtesy of Bob Lemasters

The hole was in the back of the green, so Bob couldn’t quite see where the ball ended up, but Deanna had.

It was in the hole. Bob had just hit his first-ever hole-in-one.

“He hit the ball and I’m watching it hit the green and I see it rolling right toward the stick, I said, ‘ah, it’s going to go in!’ He didn’t believe me, he thought it rolled off the back of the green and I said, ‘no, I (saw) it drop, I (saw) it drop!’ ” Deanna said.

Driving up to the hole, Bob still couldn’t believe it. He checked behind the green to see where his ball had rolled off of the green before finally checking the cup.

Bob had stayed strong throughout the round, but when he saw his ball — “Ren” written on the side, to remind him not to take the game too seriously — sitting in the hole, the tears finally came.

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“I just immediately kind of lost it,” Bob said. “I’m not as spiritual as my wife, but I have no other way to explain that then my son had to be somewhere helping that into the hole.”

“Afterward Bob thanked Renden, not for the hole-in-one, but just for a sign that things are good,” Deanna said. “Just for saying ‘Dad it’s all fine, we’re all going to be together again one day and be happy again.’ ”

To the bar

It’s one of the most backward traditions in all of sports, After a hitting a hole-in-one, a golfer is to report to the clubhouse and buy everyone a round of drinks. This is not a friendly suggestion. It is a requirement.

While logic would suggest it should be the golfer who has the drinks bought for him, the tradition is what it is, old as the game itself.

And Bob would be damned if he wasn’t going to honor it.

While most golfers might hope for an empty bar when finishing a round after an ace, Bob and Deanna made sure of the opposite. After crying together and calling their children, Bob and Deanna called some close friends, told them the news and had them meet at the Ann Arbor Country Club.

Before Renden’s death, Bob said he might have done the same to brag about the shot, to pump his chest up a bit. Be man of the moment. But now he just wanted to share a happy moment with his wife and closest friends and share memories of his beloved son.

A $200 bar bill later: mission accomplished.

“I’ve thanked Renden 10 times probably for the hole-in-one since then,” Bob said. “Not because of the hole-in-one, because as I’ve said, those sort of things don’t really mean as much after you go through something like lose a child.

“I thanked him for the actual sign.”

Pete Cunningham covers sports for He can be reached at Follow him on Twitter @petcunningham.


Cameron McLain

Wed, May 15, 2013 : 5:19 p.m.

I remember watching that fire.


Tue, May 14, 2013 : 4:24 p.m.

Great Article! Renden was a friend growing up and a great person, I thought about him the other day and then my Dad showed me the article. Brought tears to my mom's eyes when she read it. Hope you and your family are doing well Bob, from someone who has played a few rounds of golf with Renden at AACC. -Lex


Mon, May 13, 2013 : 12:41 a.m.

God bless this family! It's not easy living with the daily pain that stays with you after your precious child dies! Beautiful tribute.


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 10:09 p.m.

Great story, brought tears to my eyes.


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 6:27 p.m.

Great story Bob, I wasn't a "believer" until this morning


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 3:34 p.m.

'Closure' is a cliched term and does not do this story justice; it, in fact, detracts from it. You dont get 'closure' after the loss of a loved one - you learn to open yourself to life and live on in the face of the everlasting loss.

Pete Cunningham

Sun, May 12, 2013 : 6:53 p.m.

That's the term Bob used when we spoke. If that's how he feels, I would be the last one to argue otherwise. He wasn't speaking of absolute closure, that can obviously never be found, but he spoke of a sense of closure nonetheless.

Julie Jaffee Nagel

Sun, May 12, 2013 : 2:13 p.m.

This is one of the most moving stories I have ever read. Thank you for sharing it and inspiring others with your courage to heal.


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 2 p.m.

My heart was warmed by this story. I truly believe that our loved ones are always with us in spirit. I'm so glad that Ren was able to give his father a sign that he was okay. Thank you so much for this story.

Nick Danger

Sun, May 12, 2013 : 1:33 p.m.

This proves the bond between a loving father and son last forever. What a heartwarming and beautiful story this is.


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 1:28 p.m.

As an educator, occasionally a student crosses your path and you know it's a special person. Such was the case for Renden. He was an amazing lad and brought a spark to the classroom rarely seen. I was so deeply saddened by this tragedy beyond words. Shortly after his passing, his birth mother was assigned to my wife's cancer case; she's now cancer-free. I can't help but now wonder if that was my "hole in one" gift from Renden. I'm thrilled to see this story and so happy for Bob and family. Renden's presence and power continues.


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 1:13 p.m.

That's a wonderful story! Nice to hear something good, once in awhile. God blessed you with Ren watching over you.

Marianne Smith

Sun, May 12, 2013 : 12:27 p.m.

Wow - the story gave me chills and brought tears to my eyes - what an incredible sign from Renden!


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 10:55 a.m.

Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing.


Sun, May 12, 2013 : 10:12 a.m.

What a lovely story! Thanks for the article. It is nice to read stories like this for a change!